You may or may not know that I do personal development reading pretty much every day. I have been doing other types of personal development over the years but never reading – I’ve always thought “reading is for when I’m still in school, I’m out of school, I don’t need to read, blah blah blah” and boyyyy was I wrong! Just last summer, I picked up reading and strive to do a little each day. I’ve finished a couple of books, LOL. But one of my main goals for this year was to read 10 pages (or more) every day so by the end of 2018, I would have read at least 3650 pages – which equates to about 10-15 books (depending on the pages, of course).
The reason why I love reading self-help/personal development/educational books is because when you read, you manifest what you’re reading into your thoughts/mind. They even give you guidelines in the books on how to create in your life success, love, whatever subject the book is about; and if you take action, you’ll be able to CREATE, DEVELOP, or IMPROVE what you were wanting (the reason why you started reading the book in the first place.) But you won’t achieve it by not taking action – this is very important to remember. You can read all the books you want, know all the principles of success but if you don’t apply it, nothing will change.
With that being said, I finished Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill – finally – I’ve had it on my list for the longest, I would read then slack then read then slack. Then I finally convince myself to just read little 10 pages each day and wah-lah, I completed the 191-page book within 3 weeks. And so my point of this blog, I wanted to share with you, connect my experiences, and reflect back on each chapter – which is exactly why I created a blog in the first place. Also by writing and summarizing, maybe new thoughts will come into my mind and create a new ideas for me and of course, it can help you as well.
In this book, Napoleon Hill wrote about the 13 principles of success in the accumulation of money – they can be use to acquire success in every aspect of life as well, whether it’s financial, physical, relationship, etc – they all use the same principles. I love how in every chapter, he gave us so many examples and stories of applying the principle – it really gave me, the reader, an actual visual of what and how to apply it. As I read every chapter, I realize that I have used these principles before to achieve every success I ever accomplished and by that, I’m not bragging – it is just a very true statement. I have been using these principles (most if not all) unconsciously to complete my college courses and graduate to reaching my health and fitness goals. I will also share the guidelines/steps he shared in the book and will also give an example of how my husband and I used to achieve success in purchasing our first home, mainly my husband. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend. REMEMBER THESE PRINCIPLES CAN BE USED FOR ANY AREAS OF YOUR LIFE TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS/ YOUR GOALS.
Now before I drag on any long, let’s start with the first principle and that is DESIRE. In order to achieve success, you must first have to have the burning desire for it. Who actually achieve success when they didn’t desire it? I don’t think there’s a lot of people out there – and if so, I wouldn’t think they would have kept that “success” for long. It should be a burning desire that you can feel, you must know WHAT you want and WHY you want it. Before desire, success was just a mere wish, hope, and dream. Turn that wish, hope, or dream into a desire and it will be the birth of your success.
“A burning desire to be, and to do, is the starting point from which the dreamer must take off.” –Napoleon Hill
What You Want and Why
When you can identify what you want specifically, you will have a target to aim for. Be specific, you want to accumulate money but how much exactly? You want to lose fat, how much fat? This will give you a clear visualization of what your success will look like. Because if you don’t know what you want exactly, you won’t know how to get there and you may end up cutting yourself short before your success.
Why You Want It
When you find out WHY you want it, that will be the driving force to cause you to work towards it. You must put all your energy, willpower, and effort into working for it. You cannot wish for it, wishing doesn’t bring you anything. Your reason WHY should be a deep enough reason as to why it’s important to achieve success because if your reason isn’t significant enough to cause you to change yourself, it won’t be worth working towards. Just like if you kinda want something, you kinda do it, then you kinda get results.
Make a Plan
I will be outlining the 6 steps mentioned in the book on how to acquire desire to set yourself up for success.
- Figure out the specific goal you desire and fixate your mind on it. I mentioned earlier you must know what you want exactly or you may cut yourself short.
- Decide what you’re willing to give in return of the success desired. Nothing is free [that you’ll appreciate, anyway] you must be willing to work for it.
- Set the date for when you plan to succeed in your desire.
- Now make your plan to start working towards your success and start ASAP, whether you’re ready or not. We are all never ready for success but we still must take action.
- Write it down! Write down all the steps I’ve just mentioned above, put it all together. It’s one thing to visualize it and know it but it’s another to actually write it down and literally see it.
- Read over the steps you have written down, out loud twice a day, one in the morning and one at night before bed. This is called affirmation – the art of talking to yourself and telling yourself good or bad thoughts – what you tell yourself will become your reality. Even if it seems silly at first, do this every day and you’ll start to believe you can achieve success.
It may be hard or almost impossible to imagine yourself achieving success before you actually achieve it. “If you truly desire [success] so keenly that your desire is an obsession, you will have no difficulty in convincing yourself that you will acquire it.” The 6 steps will require some imagination and allow you to see how success does not emerge from luck, chance, and good fortune but it does arise from dreaming, hoping, wishing, desiring, and planning.
Our desire to own a home
I am about to share my personal experience of desire in purchasing our first home (mostly my husband’s desire). Although from the beginning to the end, he did use all 13 principles in the book. Since this blog is focused on the first principle of success – which is desire – I’m going to stay on the topic of desire as much as possible. My husband and I recently purchased our first home this past summer, 2017.
The start of his desire: my husband had always dreamed of owning his own home since his family had to foreclose their beautiful house. Since then, they have lived in apartments for as long as he can remember. For me, I didn’t have the desire to actually own a home – for over 20 years of my life, the place I called home has been pretty comfortable to me. We always had a yard to play in and a place to park our cars so I didn’t struggle with living like how he did. What’s so amazing about struggles are that they create that burning desire to work hard for a better living.
My husband and I went through some troubled times living in the apartment – and with only 1 bathroom and a very small kitchen, it wasn’t comfortable for us. It wasn’t home. Though I didn’t have the desire of owning a home, but I did have the desire to at least move out to another apartment so we’ll have more room. But for him, it was a house.
Figure out the specific goal you desire and fixate your mind on it. What my husband wanted was a house, he painted a very clear picture of what he wanted the house to look like – 3 bedrooms, 2 bath, great neighborhood, ‘good-size’ backyard, a roomy kitchen, and opened floor-plan. He also knew why he wanted a house with that description – 3 bedrooms for other family members, 2 bathrooms so if one’s taken there’s another one, great neighborhood so we can feel safe, a ‘good-size’ backyard so we can be comfortable outside, roomy kitchen because we spend a lot of time in the kitchen, and an opened floor-plan so the house won’t feel so small or cluttered.
Decide what you’re willing to give in return of the success desired. Our desires to move out caused us to work hard and save money – he continued to work on his side job of cleaning headlights along with his full-time job and we both saved every penny we received. We sacrifices our nights out with friends and family, we resists our wants, and we were obsessed with our goal.
Set the date for when you plan to succeed in your desire. Buying a house is a little bit different with setting an exact time because all the paper work, houses that are available, negotiation, etc. changes all the time. We didn’t have a set date and time but we KNEW we wanted to move out by 2017. We also knew that we weren’t going to settle for a house less than what we desired therefore we weren’t going to rush into offering.
Step: 4 & 5
Now make your plan to start working towards your success and start ASAP, whether you’re ready or not. Write it down! Alright, my husband completed steps 1-3, now on to step 4 & 5. He sort of combined these two plans since he is a visual learner. He jot down his plan – he showed me the plans for how he was going to acquired our home and called it “reverse planning.” He contacted his real estate agent, received the information; contacted the loan officer, received information on what he needed to bring in to determine the loan amount, and he was on it. He took note of what was needed and he got it asap. The real estate agent and loan officer even stated that they’ve never seen someone who worked as fast as him. But if you want your house/goal fast, you gotta move fast!
Read over the steps you have written down, out loud twice a day, one in the morning and one at night before bed. Alright I’m not quite sure if he actually talked to himself (I’m sure he did in his mind) but he talked to me all the time about his plans and visualizing what he’d do to the house, redoing this, redoing that. And so I would consider that a type of affirmation because he manifesting the words he spoke and the words he wrote down and he goes over his plans every single day until we purchased our house with 3 bedrooms, 2 baths, opened floor-plan, good-size backyard, great neighborhood, and ‘okay’ kitchen. Though the kitchen was considered ‘okay’ only, it met some of our wants/needs in how our kitchen would look like but hey, everything else was perfect so why not? We didn’t expect a perfect house but we did end up finding the best house for us 😀
New goal – restarting steps 1-6.
We finally purchased our home – now it’s time for the renovations. The reasons why is because the house was not upgraded at all – nothing! It was actually very dirty on the inside – I know. But we saw potential in the house – we can always change the cosmetic part of a house to how we would like it to look. The foundation was great, no termites, no roach infestation, etc. Yes, he started back at step 1 for this new goal. I won’t go into much details with these, I’m sure you all get the gist of the steps.
Step 1: we went back and forth from Home Depot to the granite stores to furniture stores, looked online for ideas and finally set our minds to what we desired our house to look like – flooring, wall color, counter tops, sinks, etc.
Step 2: My husband was WILLING to pay a contractor to put in our counter tops and some of the flooring since it’s something he doesn’t know how to do by himself or have the tools to do so. For the rest, my husband was WILLING to bust his butt for 3-4 weeks of painting the walls and cabinets and putting the flooring in. I helped a little, LOL. But yes, that was what he was willing to do to make this house his [desired] home.
Step 3: My husband estimated the date to when could be able to move in – 1 month.
Step 4-5: He planned out what we needed to do to the house, the equipment needed, how much money to do all the renovations, who to contact, etc., he wrote down his plan and got to work. He woke up extremely early on weekends after coming home late from the house, went straight there after work on weekdays and even took days off from his job to work on the house.
Step 6: Again, he constantly talks to me about what he’s planning to do and how the house will look like in the end. Then finally, 3-4 weeks later, we were able to live in our home. Only AFTER my husband’s burning desire to purchase our home and renovating it fuel him to work every single day.
Thus it is a true burning desire, sealing all the windows, air vents in the middle of summer in Fresno, painting the walls of our home in 102 degrees, soaked in sweat – I have never seen him work so hard in my entire life. It would’ve been easier to hire and pay the contractor to do all the work but no, my husband saw this as a learning opportunity to gain knowledge about construction/contractor work.
I just showed you how my husband and I used the 6 simple steps of desire to reach our success in purchasing and renovating our home. We both continue to use these steps to reach any goals we set and I hope you will start using it as well (if you haven’t already). This is only the first principle but it is the start of all success that’s why it is first. And when you do use these steps, I hope you reflect back on your plan and progress frequently just as we do. Some times we tend to get overwhelm by our life situation or just the plan itself, we forget where we are at. Even if your goal seems very far away, convince yourself and your mind that you can and you will achieve it. Use your imagination and believe in it. You must believe and have FAITH in yourself, even when no one else does. So why do you set a goal in the first place? Because you initially believe you can achieve it. Whether you stick to it or not, depends on your current beliefs with yourself.
“No one is ready for a thing until he believes he can acquire it.” – Napoleon Hill
When you develop a burning desire to achieve a goal, you must forget what others will say and do to bring you down; what they say about you doesn’t define you, it defines them. You must be willing to shrug off the negative people who don’t believe in you; stay away from negative energy, temptation, and pressure that drags you down. Stay positive, stay optimistic.
“Our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds.” -Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich.
Today with this first principle of achieving success from “Think and Grow Rich,” I will leave you with this: it is hard to wake up every day and hate yourself/life and do nothing about it. We all have a choice to work on ourselves every single day to achieve success, some of us choose not to. Maybe because they think they can’t, they don’t have time, it’s too hard, etc. People come up with all kind of excuses to not work on themselves. Why? Because it’s harder to work on your success than to work for someone else’s success, who constantly tells you what to do. They limit themselves, cut themselves short on life, health, prosperity, etc.
I hope you enjoyed this blog. If you have any questions, comments, or would like to share your experience with me, I’d be more than happy to hear it. You can comment below or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org 🙂 Looking forward to hear from you.